Its about time..

~ Cinderella by Tata Young

When I was just a little girl
My momma used to tuck me into bed and she read me a story
It always was about a Princess in distress
And how a guy would save her and end up with the glory
I'd lie in bed and think about the person that I wanted to be
Then one day I realized the fairy tale life wasn't for me

I don't wanna be like Cinderella
Sittin' in a dark old dusty cellar
Waiting for somebody, to come and set me free
I don't wanna be like Snow White waiting
For a handsome prince to come and save me
On a horse of white, unless we're riding side by side
Don't want to depend on no-one else
I'd rather rescue myself

Someday I'm gonna find someone who wants my soul, heart and mind
Who's not afraid to show that he loves me
Somebody who will understand I'm happy just the way I am
Don't need nobody taking care of me

I will be there for him just as strong as he, will be there for me
When I give myself then it has got to be, an equal thing

I can slay, my own dragon
I can dream, my own dreams
My knight in shining armour is me
So I'm gonna set me free

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~ Its about time, we have songs like this. Not just about love.. love.. love.. Don't get me wrong, I love 'love'. No doubt being in love is the greatest feeling of all, and screwing up in the 'love' department has the effect of making your life turn upside down. And although I realize conversation about 'love' has never gone out of season, its always great to talk about 'love', but I'm getting sick of people revolving their life around their love life.

Coming home after living overseas for a few years I noticed the difference between our people and them. Its very unfortunate that most Indonesians have a way of thinking that you are not whole as a person when you're not a couple. Which is why most of my single friends are basically stressing out and pulling their hairs when talks of relationship occurs. I think that resulted from how environment has shaped our thinking.

For me, I am not trying to be a superwoman who declared-not-needing-a-man in my life. But I refused to see myself less just because I'm not a couple. Some of my single girl friends often say things like 'When I have a boyfriends, I'm going to .......' or 'I want to go to ...... when I have a boyfriend someday'. I just don't see why you have to put your life on hold just because you are single.

I believe in making things happen on my own without depending on other people, although I admit that sometimes having someone special on your side while we're making things happen are so much better. But I'm not gonna be those people who are going to wait for someone to come along to be happy and independent.

I think having that kind of mindset sort of indicate that we love ourselves better if we're a couple and I personally think we need to learn to love ourselves more in order to be a better person. Better person for yourself and for the people in your life.